My son plays basketball and he is very competitive about the game. While he is playing he seems most at peace with himself, at least this is how I see him. He is all smiles and confidence mixed with an excitement I don’t see on his face, all the time.
This past holiday season he had one basketball game and things did not go well, they actually haven’t been going well the whole season. It might be pertinent to mention that he is ten (10). So, the teams are often uneven and there is no such thing as try-outs or cuts at this stage in the game. To my sons utter dismay, talent is not a requirement. He takes this seriously, to say the least. And to continue with my story here, after this last game the coach left right after the game, with his 11-year-old who is on the team, without a word to the kids, parents or even shaking hands with the other kids. Then later that afternoon we got his resignation email as team coach. Seriously?!
So, this grown man pulled his son off the team and quit mid-season as the coach because of what he called an inequality issue with the teams. Well, to be fair we did get 4 kids that have never played before and some of the other teams are calling plays and seem pretty cohesive, compared to our Bad News Bear’s. But when I tell my son, Triton, that the coach quit and why, he says “Well, that’s not a very good example for us kids, now is it?” I should also mention my ten-year old often sounds like he is about 27! 🙂
So, even though I had an entirely different blog prepared for my date with you all, I wanted to talk about Giving Up! What makes one person give up and another try harder? Wouldn’t it be nice if we could somehow pick and choose our personality traits? I want to be brave and virtuous, I want to be resilient and a risk taker. I want to be the kind of person who never gives up. I suppose in some ways we do have the ability to change our spots. We can all decide each moment to be exactly who we want to be rather than maybe who we are inclined to be. I was recently told that I am brave and a risk taker because I am putting all I can into writing and giving this dream of mine a try. I didn’t even occur to me that it was brave…the risky part I sort of get though! 🙂
So this new year I wish you all to be brave, to try something new you have always wanted to try. I wish for you the moments where you get to every bit the person who you crave to be, even if for only a few moments at a time. For me I am going to keep pushing on, keep writing and pursuing this crazy dream of mine to be a bestseller!
Happy Lucky (20)13!!
All the best,