With the release of our second boxed set, Weddings on Main Street, I’ve thought a lot about weddings. In my story, What a Cowgirl Wants, Mandy Wagner has always dreamed of a fairy tale wedding. Unfortunately, she’s operating on a pauper’s budget.
When my oldest son got married, they went all out. Big wedding with a big budget, held on an outdoor patio at the Shutters Hotel in Santa Monica overlooking the Pacific ocean. It was beautiful. The wedding and reception cost more than I made that year.
When I got married many years ago, I was wearing blue jeans and sneakers. Still wearing our coats, we got married in an empty book room at the county courthouse. The woman who officiated couldn’t even pronounce matrimony. There was no reception, no pictures, no wedding showers, no fanfare whatsoever. I didn’t even have a bouquet. Forty-one years later, we’re still married. Do I regret not having a wedding? Yes, every day.
I regret denying my father the chance to walk his only child down the aisle. I regret denying my mother the chance to help plan a wedding. I regret not having any pictures to look at. I don’t, however, regret not putting my parents in debt to finance a wedding. And in the overall scheme of things, we’re still just as married as we would be if we’d gotten married in a church.
My youngest son is getting married October 2015. Once again, I get to live vicariously through my kids, though this son is much more frugal than his brother and I know he won’t go into debt to finance it. Like Mandy and Blake, he and his fiancee will have a beautiful wedding that they plan themselves, and they’ll do most of the work. Even though the wedding is more than a year away, I’m already excited to hear their plans.
What was your wedding experience? Big wedding? Eloped? A small ceremony on a budget? Tell us your wedding story.