Values Live On

This post isn’t meant to be preachy. Family has been on my mind a lot lately and how proud I am of my son and grandson.

What do we do that would make our ancestors’ hair curl? Granted our descendants manner of living was much more strict than today’s traditions. In many, many ways. We have grown as a culture, good or bad.

Maybe it’s the way we style our hair. Maybe it’s our choice of clothing. Could it be our choice of speech? The way we treat others? We can pray we’ve taught our children from an early age to choose well, to be at ease with life’s options.

And…there are options. Right and wrong choices.

Guidance and encouragement will teach our children to, hopefully, choose the right role models. Perhaps they’ll opt to model their lifestyle in the way we’ve demonstrated, perhaps it’s someone else.

Children do observe everything we do or say. The way we behave towards others. It’s our responsibility to instill good values in our children and grandchildren.

It isn’t our role to judge. When we engage, offer encouragement and support in their choices, we stand by the person they’re becoming. Right or wrong. Though we hope they choose effectively. Choices they make are part of their growth.

Yes, perhaps they’ll make mistakes, who doesn’t? How else are they to learn?

I’ve certainly gathered much knowledge from my own mistakes. We can only hope they learn from theirs.


About Carol

Carol’s roots are sown in the South. Her writings are Southern, small town based and include romantic comedies, contemporary romance, and romantic suspense. She believes in falling in love, family values, and happy endings. When time allows, she dabbles in art, and always has popcorn, pickles, and hot chocolate on hand. While a dose of humor sprinkles throughout her stories, they may or not, be based on real life characters. Some are convinced they are, but only she knows for certain, and she won’t gossip. Carol currently resides in Georgia with her husband and family. A multi-published eBook author since 2011, Carol's won numerous awards, and previously published in poetry, short stories and novels. Novels available in ebook: (A Short Story) A MATTER of TASTE, PERFECT MATCH, A SMOKY MOUNTAIN CHRISTMAS (also available in print), CHRISTMAS at the GRANGER INN, CHRISTMAS at APPLE LAKE, THE CHRISTMAS STOCKING. Coming December 2019: A Smoky Mountain Christmas Wedding Coming December 2020: A Smoky Mountain Christmas Baby Where to find Carol DeVaney online:
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9 Responses to Values Live On

  1. Jill James says:

    I’ve always been of the belief that there are two ways to become. If you loved your childhood you want to grow up to be your parents and raise your children that way. If you hated your childhood you want to grow up and become the total opposite of your parents and raise your children that way. I love your advice of being supportive of your children and grandchildren. Lovely!!!

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  2. Our job isn’t to fix them. It’s to love them.

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  3. Carol says:

    You’re absolutely right, Caroline. Thanks for stopping by!


  4. E. Ayers says:

    When hubby and I got married, we had a long discussion about how we were raised. We were determined not to make the same mistakes with our children. We also discussed what was right. Looking back now, I think we did the right things, not that we were perfect because perfection is impossible. Our girls have grown up, and I’m so proud of the way the way they’ve turned out.

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    • Carol says:

      You and your George were smart to discuss, upfront, how your children were to be raised. Bringing up wonderful children is a testament to motherhood and fatherhood.


  5. Jude Knight says:

    So true! We can advise, but not dictate, and our job is to love them, love them, love them.

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  6. leighmorgan1 says:

    It’s funny how parenting evolves as our children age. Some things remain–trying to lead by example (sometimes winning at this, sometimes wished we’d done better/more/less). We’ve always been free to discuss ideas and philosophy in our home. Debate about those ideas, patterns of behavior, beliefs has been open, sometimes raucous, always respectful.

    I’m not a grandparent, yet. Although, I must say I’m looking forward to that adventure. My children are thoughtful and kind. I didn’t create that, but I hope I’ve encouraged it and pointed out those instances (gently) when both have been lacking.

    Very thoughtful and engaging post, Carol! Thanks. Peace to you and your family. I’ve got a feeling they are people we’d all benefit from knowing. Happy Eastertide.


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