Balance in Life

My husband often asks me to balance my time. To prove his point he showed me an article about the value of balance. According to that article, most of our troubles are due to imbalances, to which my husband strongly agrees.

We should divide our day in such a way we can balance work, family time, socializing, exercise, spiritual time, an???????????????????????????????d fun time.

Let’s do some calculation: If a person works eight hours a day, drives half an hour each way to work, breaks at lunch for an hour, exercises for an hour, and sleeps seven hours, this adds up to a total of eighteen hours. I assume the remaining six hours are used for family time, fun, socializing and spiritual time.

I am not sure in which category I can fit cooking, dinner, cleaning and laundry. Reading should go under the hour or two of fun time. And what about writing?

I am writing full time– or to be more accurate I sit in front of my computer full time. I can manage an hour to exercise or walk every day. I can cook twice a week and freeze, socialize two or three times a week. I don’t know if this is a balanced life. Considering there is so much more I want to do, I’m still faced with the same problem of balancing my time.

In theory, I think balancing one’s time is wonderful. Unfortunately I don’t believe you can be successful while dividing your time in multiple activities. I have always learned that to be successful you ought to give your main goal your 101%.

How do I do it? Instead of balancing my day, I try to balance my week. The weekend is for errands, grocery shopping, socializing, church. Monday is my cleaning day, advert???????????????????????????????izing, catching up on emails and blogs. On Tuesday I meet with my critique partners. Tuesday afternoon is dedicated to editing and revision. Serious writing continues on Wednesday, Thursday and Friday. Of course, this is an ideal schedule. But schedules are seldom followed and rules are made to be broken.

Yet some people manage to multitask and be successful at everything they do. If you are one of these fortunate people, how do you do it? How do you handle a full-time job, family responsibilities, and writing?


VALENTINE BABIES: Can he love a woman expecting another man’s baby?

Tennis and Writing

How many of you regularly watch the tennis tournaments?

My husband doesn’t take his eyes off the TV for the two weeks of each of the Australian Open, French Open, Wimbledon and US open. I glance from time to the TV screen to applaud a good point.

 Roger FedererAt the Wimbledon, we cheered Roger Federer, my all–time favorite tennis player. The papers describe him as the most elegant champion and a true gentleman. With his sixth Wimbledon win, he became tennis’s greatest men’s champion, watched by a legion of champions. He also set a record with his 15th Grand Slam title, overhauling the total of Pete Sampras who was in the Royal Box along with fellow legends Bjorn Borg and Rod Laver.

Was Federer really unbeatable?


The 2010 US Open presented an incredible match that lasted more than four hours. Federer almost won but his opponent Argentinean Juan Martin Del Potro managed to come back and win the unbeatable Federer. The women’s final followed a similar path as Kim Clijsters defeated the famous Serena Williams.

As I watch the 2013 Australian Open, I find myself establishing a parallel between tennis and writing.

Federer and Serena Williams compare to the New York Bestselling authors, well-established, basking in fame for years and unbeatable.

And yet, there are a lot of Del Potro and Kim Clijsters in Romance Writing. New authors with charming voices and fabulous imagination. With perseverance and hard work, they perpromance09[1]CAN reach the unreachable goal, they can be the new champions, the new bestselling authors.

Remember that the biggest champions and the most famous authors were once beginners too.

  • Dream your dream
  • Set your goal
  • Work hard
  • Listen to your coach
  • Go for it
  • Develop a tough skin

You are almost there. One more hit is all it takes sometimes.


VALENTINE BABIES is a heartwarming story that will take you from the heart of Kentucky to South Florida and Atlanta, and then to Iraq and Germany.

Fearless reporter, Roxanne Ramsay, doesn’t think twice before traveling for important assignments, even in a war zone—until her last trip leads her to a life-altering mistake.

At his best friends’ wedding, Dr. Greg Hayes, who has a serious phobia of planes, can’t take his eyes off the lovely maid of honor. But why is Roxanne blinking away tears? Getting involved with the strong-headed and too generous reporter involves more complications than the bright doctor had ever faced in the OR. Yet what wouldn’t he do to save the love of his life and her baby?

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